My friend, Marc Silver, the author of Breast Cancer Husband, just wrote a delightful essay for the LA Times. Here is a quote:
And so, as a public service to cancer husbands everywhere, I would like now to share 11 things you should never say to your wife or girlfriend after she is diagnosed with this disease. These are things that either a) I said and instantly regretted, or b) other guys told me that they said, or c) wives told me that their husbands said.
1. I thought you were healthy when I married you.
2. Is that the bad kind of cancer?
3. Do you want to stop and shop for a new car? (This was on the way home from the doctor's office where the diagnosis was presented.)
4. Cheer up: Your survival odds are 85%!
5. Isn't it kind of like a root canal?
6. You've got your mother and sisters -- you don't need me.
7. Can you delay your mastectomy until sailing season is over?
8. It's the bottom of the ninth, there are two out, but we're going to hit this ball out of the park. (Women tell me this is a really big no-no.)
9. What do I tell my friends?
10. I don't want to just make out with you -- guys like to finish what they start.
11. Why are you complaining about losing your hair? That wig looks better than your real hair!
You will enjoy the whole article: