Here is a brief email that I received from a woman who recently participated in one of our on-line chats (AND NOTE: THERE IS ANOTHER COMING UP THIS TUESDAY, 5/19 AT 8 PM ET). I think that this is a great example of trying to find authentic ways to think positively, to see the glass as half full.
We are often lectured by well-meaning friends and relatives about the importance of a positive attitude. Although I have said it many times before, I always welcome a chance to say again: Attitude has nothing to do with cancer growth, progression, recurrence, or initial diagnosis. Of course, attitude has a great deal to do with our quality of life and how we make it through our days. But I promise you that your cancer will not be impacted at all by your thoughts.
Here are some wise words:
I say to my kids when they complain that they want more than what they were given that there will always be someone who was more than you and someone who has less than you. I guess when I got diagnosed I looked for how good my position was relative to what it could be. I am in the Boston area where there are lots of good clinicans and surgeons. We have lots of opportunies for healing and more is known about breast cancer than 10 years ago. We are lucky to be in Boston now. Yes we need to do more and find a cure but everything has improved and there is so much support and love out there but it wouldn't always find you you need to find it and be open to it.